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While the exact explanation varies from edition to edition, the concept of prepared spells is based on the works of Jack Vance, known as a Vancian Magic System. In older editions, characters literally forgot the spells they’d memorized as they cast them. Since my ADHD makes rote memorization of details difficult, I could never be an AD&D caster. (I had a hard enough time, as a player, just keeping track of which spells I had memorized!)
I also often forget what I already knew in real life — that my family loves me, that many people respect me, including my family, and I feel alone or inadequate. Maybe you’ve felt that way, too.
As foster-adoptive parents, attachment disorder is a big part of our lives. Children who have experienced the loss of their parents can also feel alone or inadequate, afraid to trust parental figures for fear of being abandoned again. “Do you still love me?” and, “Why do you love me?” are common refrains in our home. And my own cauldron of anxiety and rejection sensitivity dysphoria leaves me wondering the same.
But trauma aside, we all need to hear again and again how loved and valued we are, even when we know it’s true. We need people to help us prepare Bigby’s Hugging Hands, Otto’s Undeniable Affirmation, and Confirm Human-Cool-Us.
The world is better for you being in it. You are valuable to your party, whether a gaming group, a friend group, or a family. And I’m glad you’ve joined us on this adventure. |
