(Content Trigger Warning: Loss of loved ones)
In high school, I loved horror movies. Nearly every Friday night, I was at a friendās house with a pizza, 2-liter of Mountain Dew, and whatever B-movie grabbed our attention at the rental store if there wasnāt a new Nightmare on Elm Street or Hellraiser. Between plot holes the size of a Hellmouth and decisions by the protagonists that bring to mind a die roll instead of logic, a single movie could provide months worth of jokes.
My theater major in college encouraged my fascination with the technical aspects of productions, so Iād watch to appreciate the lighting, makeup, and special effects.
But after over two decades as a pastor, standing in hospital rooms as the inevitable moment arrived, sitting with grieving families and loved ones, and conducting hundreds of funerals, stories focused on death and dying affect me differently. Even though, because of my faith tradition as a Lutheran Christian (Happy Reformation Day to those who publicly challenge the status quo!), I believe in resurrection and eternal life, grief is still a reality no matter what you believe about the afterlife. So those stories donāt produce fear ā they generate compassion and make me cry for the hurting while feeling helpless to bring any comfort.
Our life experiences affect how we approach our hobbies, especially TTRPGs. I still enjoy and write a fair amount of undead adventures, because, unlike real life, a holy smite or fireball can allow us to take revenge on death now and explore our own mortality from an outside perspective. And TTRPGs bring people together, which can help with the loneliness that often accompanies grief.
As the December holidays approach, we remember those for whom that time brings more sadness than joy, but if Halloween or other holidays are difficult for you, or youāre going through a difficult time, or diabetes, allergies, an eating disorder, other responsibilities, or social anxiety keep you from appreciating today and the coming months the way many others do, I want you to know that youāre not forgotten. Youāre not alone.
I hope you can enjoy this day in a way that works for you. I hope you have a game lined up soon, dice at the ready. Iām rolling initiative with you in spirit and watching Charlie Brown in a way that makes me want to go have a talk with all of his rock-giving neighbors and sit with Linus in the pumpkin patch to play D&D to pass the time while waiting for the Great Pumpkin.
Happy Halloween, however you celebrate. |