|
In high school (back in the AD&D days), we were at an overnight church youth event, and during our free time, we sat in a corner and played D&D. People who didn’t understand the game kept coming and asking, “Who’s winning?” And we’d all point at the DM and say, “He is!”
But it was a joke. You don’t win D&D by what you can do, or else we’d all just start at level 20. You win by being there and having fun together. The shared experience is the victory.
I often say (and firmly believe) that our worth isn’t determined by some ambiguous "contribution to society." That's futile. Who gets to determine the value of any given action? And how much is "enough" when it's always theoretically possible that you could do a little more? Is a bard more or less important than a rogue?
But do you ever know something to be true, and yet you don't apply it to yourself the way you would anyone else on the planet? 🙋♂️ Any other Enneagram Type 3s out there?
To fight my inner critic who keeps telling me I’m not good enough, my therapist recommended that I start a journal. Having a sense of accomplishment gave me ammunition against those thoughts. My accomplishments still don’t determine my value (as is true of you!), but it feels better to know that I accomplished something with my time.
So I compiled a list of what we accomplished together. It’s been a worthwhile adventure so far, and I appreciate you coming along. Thanks for sharing the experience — by joining together, we’re already winning. |
